Winning a womans heart is more than grand gestures or lavish dates; it’s about consistency, emotional intelligence, and a deep understanding of what makes her feel safe and valued. When a man can follow through on promises, respect her feelings, and prioritize their relationship, he creates a strong foundation for love to flourish. Here are seven insights on how to win her heart by genuinely building trust and fostering a secure, lasting bond.
💕What Women Look for in a Relationship
He asked me, “How can I win the heart of the woman I love?”
- I said, “It’s as simple as talking and as hard as following through.”
He asked, “What do you mean?”
- I said, “What do you think the first thing a woman looks for in a man is? Six-pack abs? A six-figure bank account? A tall, handsome man on a white horse?”
None of the above. The first thing a woman is looking for is a simple quality: trustworthiness.
- You think trustworthiness means just not cheating or not being with anyone else? No. Trustworthiness, to a woman, means being who you say you are and doing what you say you’ll do. So…
🔑 7 Essential Steps to Winning a Womans Heart
1. Either don’t make a promise or say something you won’t keep, or if you do say it, make sure you stand by it
- Because throughout history, a woman’s mental security and well-being, and that of her children, has relied on the trustworthiness of the man she’s with. A woman is constantly wondering, “Is this man trustworthy? Is he really made for me? Can I lean on him?”
2. Try to understand her, even if it’s tough
It’s been said that Freud once admitted, “The great question that has never been answered, and which I have not been able to answer despite my thirty years of research into the feminine soul, is ‘What does a woman want?’” Maybe neither you nor I will ever fully know. But try your best.
3. Either don’t start the relationship, or if you do, be aware of who should be your top priority
Simply put, she was a person with her own world before you entered her life. If you brought color to her world with your presence, don’t turn it black and white with misplaced priorities.
4. Life isn’t a destination; it’s a journey, and the companion matters more than the path
Many of us dance and celebrate at the beginning of the journey, but halfway through, we retreat into our own lonely space, distancing ourselves from our “companion.” This is where people lose the beauty of the journey. So, cherish the moments you have together so your “companion” feels closer to you.
5. Be as sensitive, available, and responsive as you can
Dr. Gottman says that in the “love laboratory,” we discovered that women have two common complaints: The first is “He’s not there when I need him,” and the second is “There isn’t enough intimacy between us.” These are the things that hurt a woman’s heart.
6. Take her feelings seriously
“Many arguments and distances in a relationship are rooted in men ignoring women’s emotions with reactions like joking, indifference, or trying to ‘fix’ things.” Often, you don’t need to do anything specific; just say, “I’m here for you. What’s hurting you so much?” And that’s enough.
7. Attention captures a woman’s heart
Attention isn’t hard, but we make it seem that way. It’s as simple as putting down your phone when she wants to talk, holding her hand when you go out, supporting her in front of others, thinking of her when you’re apart, and letting her know how you feel.
And remember this in the end:
“It’s not love that ultimately saves someone; it’s a safe, steady, and mature affection. This kind of behavior in a relationship says, ‘Trust me, and you’ll see how safely I will love you.’”
That’s how you truly win the heart of the woman you love.
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