Dealing with narcissists requires a lot of caution. These individuals are masters of manipulation, often twisting realities to suit their narrative, and making you question your sense of self. From personal experience, I’ve had periods in my life where I was forced to deal with narcissists. Reflecting on those times brings up frustrating and disheartening memories, but sharing my experience might help protect you from falling into the same traps. Here’s what interacting with a narcissist felt like:
what interacting with a narcissist felt like:
• I constantly questioned my mental health.
• I found myself apologizing for things that weren’t my fault.
• I was led to believe I was full of flaws.
• I was frequently confused, unsure of who was right or wrong.
• I had to consult them for every decision, seeking their approval.
• I questioned myself after every argument, wondering what I did wrong to trigger such a reaction.
• I was filled with self-doubt, often blaming myself for not being enough.
• I trusted their ideas more than my own.
• I pretended to agree with them just to avoid conflict.
• After every fight, I had to be the one to initiate reconciliation.
• I tried to calm them, as my distress seemed to anger them further.
• I acted in ways that pleased them, often disregarding my needs.
• I complied with their wishes, as any disagreement would result in the threat of ending the relationship.
• My needs in the relationship didn’t matter; theirs did. I was merely a tool to fulfill them.
• When they needed something, they were warm and sweet, but otherwise cold and dismissive.
• Sarcasm and mocking were constant.
• I had to be extremely careful with my words. If I forgot to say “please,” it would cause a massive outburst.
Effective Tips for Dealing with Narcissists and Safeguarding Yourself
My Advice?
If you must interact with narcissists, prioritize your independence in every aspect. Here are some quick tips to safeguard yourself:
• Build and maintain your private circle—don’t introduce your partner to all your friends.
• Establish your financial independence, with your savings.
• If possible, keep your workplace separate from theirs—don’t let them infiltrate your professional life.
• Develop independent hobbies and activities that you enjoy without them.
• Maintain close relationships with your family that are outside of your partner’s influence.
• Set personal, independent career goals for yourself.
Narcissists will do everything they can to isolate you and make you dependent on them. Don’t allow that to happen—remain sharp and strategic. 🧠💪
What do you think? How do you handle interactions with difficult personalities like narcissists? Feel free to share your thoughts! 🗣️👇
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